Carter Brûlée

Carter is a switchy, pansexual, polyamorous, trans boy passionate about education and dessert. He walked into his first munch at 18 years old, before he had even graduated high school, and has been hooked on the community ever since. Carter is a service oriented-submissive and occasional silly sadist. He has a bubbly personality and an enthusiasm for education that he brings into all of his teaching endeavors. In addition to teaching for location and national kink and leather organizations, Carter has taught various sexuality-related topics (including polyamory, kink, consent, and negotiation) for academic institutions.

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Carter Brûlée's Workshops

Fucking With Gender - Carter Brûlée

Let’s be real, gender is a complex and multifaceted construct. There are so many aspects from gender identity, to gender presentation, and gender expression, before we even get into the societal contributions and gender roles and expectations. This class focuses on the many diverse ways you can play with gender in kink. Whether you are hoping to explore alternative presentations, affirm someone’s identity, embarrass them, or play with darker things like gender dysphoria, this discussion-based class explores the many facets of gender play and discusses negotiation considerations, strategies for fucking with gender in your play.

Get Switchy With It: Navigating play dynamics as a switch - Carter Brûlée

Two switches walk into a dungeon, neither knows who’s in charge so they wind up awkwardly staring at each other, before leaving, going home, and masturbating out of frustration while quietly weeping. Don’t let this happen to you! Learn how to navigate through an experience when there aren’t rigid power dynamics involved! Dynamics in kink are often thought of as bottom and top, dominant and submissive, sadist and masochist. But what happens when both partners are switches? How do you establish a relationship dynamic when both partners want to play multiple roles? How do you set scenes and have play that fulfills each person? How do you negotiate and set boundaries around role switching? Part of the fun of switching for many is fluidity, but fluidity can sometimes complicate our dynamics in play. This workshop focuses on creating dynamics and navigating play between switches. We will discuss strategies for negotiating dynamics and play as well as role transitions. The class is meant to provide things to think about in your own negotiations and play as well as be a venue to share your ideas with others!

Hurt Their Feelings: Emotional Sadomasochism - Carter Brûlée

While physical sadomasochism is commonplace in kink spaces, emotional sadomasochism is less frequently discussed and even considered taboo for many. What does emotional sadomasochism look like and how might one incorporate it into relationship dynamics and play? From understanding non-physical risks and developing your own risk profile to selecting emotional buttons and modulating intensity, in this class Carter discusses strategies for playing with challenging emotions and mitigating risk.

It Goes Both Ways: Serving and Being Served in a Fulfilling Way - Carter Brûlée

Spend enough time in kink circles and you will hear the word service. But what really is service? In this class, Carter discusses the many forms that service can take, as well as strategies for discovering and growing your service skill set. Additionally, Carter discusses strategies for negotiating service dynamics, be they long term or temporary, and considerations for humans providing service to get what they need out of the exchange. This class is designed for both givers and receivers of service, as service is a two-way street, and those receiving service play a large role in the interaction.