EbiBex (she/her) is a queer, masochistic bottom advocate and educator who first discovered rope bondage when she was a wee baby kinkster and over the last decade has been able to fully immerse herself in rope and kink. She's active in her local Baltimore scene and has participated in and taught at various North American events as well as workshops across the US and internationally. Bex primarily approaches rope as a channel for intimacy and partnership, as well as a form of artistic expression, power exchange, and exploration of suffering. She firmly believes rope bottoming should be accessible to everyone, and hopes sharing her experiences and knowledge will help others on their journeys in risk-aware, inclusive, enjoyable ways.

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EbiBex's Workshops

Bottoming for Challenging Suspensions - Ebibex

Have you ever watched a rope scene and wished you could pick the bottom’s brain about it while they’re in rope? How do they manage inversions without getting dizzy? Does pointing your toes make a difference? Didn’t that backend hurt!? Everyone processes challenging rope in different ways. In this workshop, Bex will provide her take on bottoming for difficult suspensions and how she processes and enjoys a variety of rope. She’ll share her thoughts and welcome questions as she’s put through some tough transitions, describing in real time what she does and thinks in rope. We’ll also discuss some of the physical challenges of rope and how each person can find what works for them to embrace these challenges. While the class will focus on suspension-based rope, both tops and bottoms of all experience levels are welcome to attend!

Emotional Sadomasochism in Rope Bondage - Ebibex

Sadism and masochism come in a variety of forms, and many people who practice rope bondage have unique relationships with pain. But what about suffering that doesn’t come from physical sensations? What does it mean to identify as an emotional sadist or masochist, and how can we play with these desires in rope? In this class, we’ll explore the myriad ways rope can create emotional and/or mental stress, through shame, exposure, objectification, abandonment, disconnection, fear of failure and more. We’ll also look at cultural contexts for some of these feelings, discuss negotiation and risk management for this type of play, and aftercare considerations. (Please note: some of the material in this class is considered edgeplay and may be uncomfortable for some.)

Rope Bottom, Know Thyself! - Ebibex

Whether you're brand new to the ropes or you spend more time wrapped in jute than not, somewhere along the line you realized you like getting tied up. What else do you need to know? Actually, a lot! In a community where scenes are often Top-driven, this discussion-based class will look at a variety of different factors that contribute to "knowing yourself" as a rope bottom, and how to use this knowledge to get the most out of your scenes. We'll address things like what type of rope you enjoy, what style of scene you're after, being aware of what works for YOUR body and your own limitations, the importance of lab time for bottoms, evaluating a potential play partner for compatibility, and active negotiation. We'll also explore ways to communicate this knowledge to your play partners to get the scene you want! Bring your experiences and your questions, and be prepared to do some ropy soul searching!

Understanding the Takate Kote as a Rope Bottom - Ebibex

The gote. Box tie. Takate kote. TK. It’s one of the most common ties in Japanese-inspired rope bondage, but also one of the more risky. As bottoms, we may not always know if something is tied well or not, or know someone’s proficiency with rope, or even what the potential dangers of a specific tie like the TK are. What exactly is this infamous, controversial tie? What are the pros and cons of it? How does it work, and why is understanding this as a bottom important? What are the variations across all ties referred to as “TKs” and how can we as bottoms figure out which modifications work best for our body? Through discussions, demos, and hands-on exercises, this class will cover different ways to evaluate someone’s TK if you don’t tie, the real risks of the TK and how to decide if it’s within your risk profile, and how to find a TK that works for your body and rope practice. Note: This is a bottom-focused class, but tops are welcome! And bring a rigger along if you want to participate in hands-on exercises.