Mir

Miram Green has been active in the public BDSM scene for two decades. As a kink educator and coach, they help individuals, couples and communities build safety, fun and intimacy into BDSM play. Self-exploration and communication are Mir's kinks! Mir has taught for dozens of BDSM and kink organizations over the past twelve years, including several years at Dark Odyssey. When not doing kink, Mir meditates and gardens in coastal Northern California. 

Mir's Workshops

BDSM Negotiation Basics

Negotiating is a critical skill for building BDSM scenes, dynamics and relationships that work. But negotiating doesn't necessarily come naturally -- especially for those of us who are just entering the kink scene.

Learn how to negotiate for exactly what you want in the BDSM scene and relationships. We'll talk:

Negotiation styles
Pre-scene negotiations
How to negotiate without killing the mood
The neuropsychology of BDSM play
Checking in during and after the scene

Dealing with Drop

Post-scene drop is frustrating, irritating, and isolating. It often makes us question -- at least in the moment -- what was otherwise an awesome scene. What is this awful mood we fall into after a scene, and what the heck can we do about it? We'll talk:

Common misconceptions
What's really going on
Mind-body strategies for before, during and after the scene
How to change our narrative to avoid making drop worse
The best ways to effectively communicate after a scene -- for good scenes and bad